If we are truly honest with ourselves, we may well find an invisible closet deep inside in which we have locked away all the things we have held back over the years. Sometimes, because we were afraid or didn’t get the support we wanted, at other times we felt we didn’t have enough resources, or maybe we lacked the motivation, courage, or clarity.
Of course, there are times we choose to stay away from something because rationally we should, and that is the right thing to do. However, we need to know the difference between choosing not to and not being able to get ourselves to do so. Life changes when we look back at those times, understand why, and decide for ourselves that we will not hold back anymore.
Fear is normal when we charter untested terrain, and the comfort of safety pulls us away from adventure. Will fear rule our decisions and prevent us from exploring the thrills and adventures life has to offer? The spirit of purpose propels us to take those crucial first steps and not hold back anymore.
Small things in relationships keep getting brushed away, but they don’t go away. They stay with us and weigh us down as time passes. Will avoiding difficult conversations be our way of buying peace? Being honest and fixing things before it is too late will only happen when we don’t hold back anymore.
Often, others cannot see or understand what we want to do and the way we want to. Will we always conform to the majority but secretly wish we had been confident in following our heart? The raging passion and rising inner thoughts will guide us even when we find ourselves alone, and we can only be guided from within when we don’t hold back anymore.
If our mind can conceive it, our heart can believe it, we can achieve it. Life is too short to look back and silently wish we had, and too precious to be wasted on what others think and may say. Life changes when we are willing to reopen our inner closet, remove the suppressed things dumped over the years, and decide firmly that we won’t hold back anymore.
(Picture – Shore Temple, Mahabalipuram)
This is why accompaniment, mentoring or counselling can be so vital. Gently tilling that soil and carefully removing the stones that can blunt the blades.