Emotionally we need closure. Strained relationships, broken friendships, pressured partnerships bother us even when we feel we were not in the wrong. The need for restitution and resolution lingers deep within.
It’s not that our life is otherwise not happy. It’s not that we don’t have several other happy relationships. Yet this deep lingering need to mend things.
Our need for closure comes from Harmony. Because being harmonious is our true nature. Conflict disturbs us not because we are weak, it disturbs our harmony. We feel one in nature because nature is in harmony and it resonates. Our natural tendency is to gravitate to people and situations where we feel a sense of harmony. Consciously and subconsciously we live our lives seeking and being in that harmony, what we call being happy.
The nature of this inner harmony is Love, Purity, Compassion.
It is difficult to live in harmony without mending our relationships with those whom we have hurt. And it’s not just those who’ve drifted apart, it could even be those close to us whom we meet regularly.
And its only when we reach out to them with Love, Purity and Compassion will we truly get Closure.
So true….though it takes a lot of courage and taming of one’s ego to put a closure, but ultimately worth it!!!
True, we always feel at peace when our relations are good, harmonious and we are well accepted. May be this ego or human nature, dont know. But we all want happiness, harmony ,this is one of the ways probably.
When we are willing to forgive those who have hurt us we are actually doing ourselves a favor because it is impossible to enjoy life and be filled with bitterness at the same time .
So true……….We feel one in nature because nature is in harmony and it resonates. Our natural tendency is to gravitate to people and situations where we feel a sense of harmony.
So beautifully articulated
Hi Vivek, Your reflections are so universal they strike a chord in me, which resonates with these recurring personal experiences and patterns of our our thoughts, feelings and actions which constitute our behaviour. I greatly appreciate and am inspired by your unique level of sensitivity, compassion and persistent search for Truth, Beauty and Excellence in Life.
Appreciate your generous words, Sunilbhai.
Being in harmony with others starts by being in harmony within .
Purpose is truly an important pillar to enable us to thrive in life
And aligning purpose to the goal of building harmonious relationships, forgiving and moving on is important. Often by handing on to grudges and constantly ruminating about the imagined slights we lose sight of positive happy possibilities.
Beautifully put, thanks Anjali.
I absolutely agree with what you have expressed here. The word ‘closure’ is so loaded. But here you have simplified it so well.
Closures help you drop the baggage…feel lighter & like you said, live in harmony 🙂
True Anjali. And the quicker we start getting closure, the more available is our mind for our higher pusuits.