We know how to give generously. When people approach us seeking our help and support, we are more than happy to do our bit because it allows us to demonstrate our love and care. In fact, we look forward to opportunities to do things for people. And yet, we are not as comfortable in asking and receiving help. In our minds, we don’t want to trouble others. Mindful as that may sound, we sometimes forget that every relationship is a two-way street. Developing the ability to receive gracefully can significantly enhance our relationships.

It allows others into our lives. Including others to help us in our time of need is not a sign of weakness and vulnerability, but an acknowledgment that we trust and value them enough to receive their support.

It dissolves our ego. The openness to reach out removes the paradigm of ‘I can do it by myself and don’t need anyone.’ Of course, we must make ourselves independent, but refusing to receive help is not a virtue, it could well be our ego.

Just as we look forward to doing our bit for others, it allows others an opportunity to also do something for us, bringing them closer to us. Collaborations become an opportunity to strengthen bonds.

It opens the channels for others to reach out to us. If we are constantly giving, but don’t receive gracefully, at some point others will find it awkward and difficult to approach us. We may actually be closing the door in a relationship without realising it.

It develops gratitude in us. It brings to our conscious awareness that there are many out there who care enough for us to go out of their way to do things for us.

At some level, we have probably been conditioned that it is better to give than to receive. Of course, we must give as much as we can, but to do that at the exclusion of being open to receiving may well be counter-productive. A tree is a wonderful symbol of giving – oxygen, shade, fruits, and its beauty. But it gives effectively because it allows itself to receive – sunlight, nutrients from the soil, and care from the gardener.

We are driven by our purpose of making a difference in the lives of others. We will succeed if we reflect on a simple, yet subtle fact of life – being generous in giving and graceful in receiving are two sides of the same coin.  

(Picture-Vevey, Switzerland)