Relationships need space to flourish and grow. No matter how close we are to someone, we need to always be mindful of not only our collective needs but also the individual needs of the other. If we are not careful, we can become very possessive in our relationships.

Possessiveness comes from our inner insecurity. The feeling that someone else may get close to those close to us and we may be left out.

It comes from a lack of trust. We may love someone dearly and yet not trust that they can be extremely close to someone without compromising our relationship.

It comes from control. Our unwillingness to share our relationships with others and always wanting to be in charge of who can be part of the relationships we carry.

It comes from fear. Our imaginary scenarios make us fearful and myopic, making us hold on too tight sometimes.

It comes from attachment. We start living under the belief that what we are attached to should only be attached to us.

When we become possessive, we lose the beauty of the relationship we possess. We must be mindful that a relationship is between two individuals, and each individual has a need for space that we need to respect. Giving space does not mean the person is going away, it means we are secure enough to know that the bond of our love transcends our insecurity.

The train of our relationship can only run on the tracks of love, trust and respect. And like the train tracks, we need to be aligned and move together, and yet create the space in-between to carry the responsibility of a joyous relationship.

We possess the ability of infinite love and joy. Once we realise our true possessions, we will find our inner security and drop the need to be possessive.