What we see is not necessarily the entire picture. People we interact with, on the face of it could seem happy, have a nice lifestyle and from the outside, their life could look good. But they may be going through much in their lives which may not look apparent. A health concern, relationship issues, stress with money matters, emotional issues, insecurities, struggling with an addiction, or dealing with their past. We just don’t know where people are coming from.

And chances are they may never share their private life with us. But being mindful that everyone is going through life beyond what is apparent, changes the way we deal with the world.

We become more sensitive. We learn to understand the real needs of someone behind the behaviour.

We become more aware. We start picking up signals and read between the lines.

We listen more. Even when we have a quick response, we allow others to express themselves fully, giving them a patient hearing.

We become more accommodating. People need space and understanding when they themselves are dealing with issues.

We act with kindness. Kindness is not weakness. Our words though strong and firm are put across in a gentle way. It doesn’t mean we give in to everything and don’t protect our point of view. On the contrary, we are able to have difficult conversations, with the delicate touch of gentleness.

We learn to offer ourselves more. Giving becomes our way of living. Not just help with resources, but our time and thoughts can mean much to someone.

We share our own stories of change and challenges. Secure in ourselves when we share our vulnerabilities and experiences of change, it allows others to open up and could also help them get an answer to what they are going through.

Sometimes we fear others may take advantage of our loving nature. Some may. But fear of those very few should neither make us cynical nor should we hold ourselves back in giving our best to others. Our inner strength is always stronger than the few who break our trust.

With much happening in their lives, we don’t know where people come from. But we can give our companionship and be a joyful and helpful fellow traveler in the journey of life.

( Picture – Asia Plateau – Panchgani Centre of IofC, Initiatives Of Change )