There are times we need to speak up in life. Our willingness and ability to stand up to a situation that we know to be wrong shapes not just society and our families, but us as well. And in case we are living with the belief that it’s better not to get involved and ‘stay out of things’, we must remember – a society that is indifferent to a deteriorating situation gets victimised by its own apathy.
When we stand up for what is right, we are using our strength and position, to not only protect institutions that safeguard us, but we also protect those that are vulnerable.
It’s easier when we do it for others and in society, but the real challenge is when we are called upon to speak up and take a stand in our own families.
Age differences, emotional bonds and cultural traditions can sometimes make it a challenge. But we know things must change. And we may well find ourselves conflicted between people we respect, love and care for. But staying silent and not taking a stand is not an option. There are people depending on us, sometimes people closest to us. And when things need to be addressed we cannot let them down.
What holds us back is the fear of conflict and losing our relationship. But allowing things to fester will eventually lead to conflicts and loss of closeness.
Speaking up need not end in a breakdown or a showdown, if we are mindful of three things. Acknowledging the position of the other, clearly stating our intent behind our concern and being mindful of our tone and language. Truth spoken simply needs no drama.
And when we bring up our children in a culture where we are able to have open and honest conversations, we teach them mutual respect and openness, helping them build nurturing relationships in their life with their families.
Taking a stand may not be easy, but living with the regret of not having spoken up can be very difficult. And realising the pain some of those who depend on us have gone through, and realising that it’s too late, we never want to look back on life and say to ourselves in our moment of honesty – ‘if only I had’.
Again a very interesting and important topic. Standing up is not easy in particular in case of being the only one. However it is so important especially in our times. It requires courage. Very well written. I have to remind me every day
Thanks.
I truly appreciate you for having spoken On speaking up in time. I have found that though it leads to some persons feeling initially uncomfortable, once the silence is broken there are many supporters of the Truth . Later there’s a relic for all for having worked on the side of Truth and initial conflict resolved itself.
Thanks Vivek – this aspect of life is usually best “left alone” for all the reasons you mentioned.
I have heard Guruji Swami Tejomayananda say, ” we should stand for something, else we will fall for everything !”