Sometimes giving advice comes naturally to us. In a conversation, we often quickly jump to reacting with what we think should be done and end up telling others what we think they should do. Much as we mean well and have their best interest in mind, we must be mindful of a simple fact – not everyone who shares things with us is looking for advice.

There are times people just need us to be there to hear them out patiently without judging or advising. Many times speaking out their heart gives them the answer they may be looking for, and they will ask us when they want our views. Strong relationships are built when we know when to listen and when to advise.

Our views come from our own filters and background, and not everyone is similar in the way they look at life. Sometimes deeply understanding a point of view different from ours can enrich us more than being quick to share what we think.

There are times we may have more experience and may have answers, but that is not always the role we are being asked to play. Sometimes people want to go through their own share of experiences rather than being told what to do. Allowing others their space and learning is more important than demonstrating that we know better.

When we make ourselves available rather than being overbearing, others find comfort in coming to us when they need help and advice. The difficulty we have is not about giving advice; it is about being sensitive in knowing when not to.

(Picture – Montreux, Switzerland)