We know that change is the insignia of life, we know that nothing will remain as is forever, and yet, why does change often bring us sorrow? If we reflect upon this, we may realise that it is not the lack of understanding, but the unwillingness to accept this simple reality of life.

When things are going well, we find ourselves in a happy, safe and comfortable space. This cocooned feeling often builds an attachment to what is in place and a subtle unwillingness to let go of things as they are. The harder we try to resist change when circumstances start changing, the more pressure we put on ourselves. When our comfort zones are being broken, we need to remind ourselves that no butterfly ever flew until it left the comfort of its cocoon.

And sometimes we just fear the unknown future and doubt our inner capacity to handle things when life changes in a manner least expected. Sometimes when the time is right for us to change, change comes from outside, not as a cause for sorrow but as an opportunity to discover an ability that needed to express itself.

We get easily attached to people. Loss is never easy to handle if we treat it as a loss. But if we readjust our paradigm and view it as a journey of togetherness, much as we miss someone, we learn to reflect on all the good times we had, the things we learned, and bring our best for the rest of the unknown journey ahead.

It is important to plan, and equally important to recognise that all our plans may not play out the way we want them to. Our life will always be a combination of our plans and what life has planned for us. When our plans play out, we need to smile with satisfaction and gratitude; and when they don’t, we need to smile at life having a plan for us, even though sometimes it is a dark tunnel to help us cross a high mountain.

Things will change, we don’t have a choice. We can choose to either be sorrowful or embrace it as the next chapter of our life, that choice is ours to make.

(Picture – Nyhavn Canal, Copenhagen)