The most important conversation we have is with ourselves. We have always paid attention to what we say to others, the way we come across, and the impact it has. Our words can have a strong effect, sometimes positive and sometimes even negative on the other person. But that is true for our own inner conversations as well.

We may not realise it, but our inner conversation plays a big role in shaping us. The message we give ourselves, sub-consciously creates strong channels of thinking and influences the way we think, act and react in the world.

When we see others around us doing things bigger and better than us, and we keep telling ourselves that ‘I don’t think I am as good’, not only are we running ourselves down, we are blocking the flow of excellence through us that can maximise our potential.

When we have been hurt and keep reminding ourselves about how we have been wronged, we not only withdraw into a mental space of self-pity, we block the flow of gratitude and forgiveness through us that can open up immense love and joy.

When we have been through our struggles and keep telling ourselves how so many others around us are lucky, we lose the opportunity of building our self-confidence and gaining valuable insights that can help build our fortitude.

When we succeed and tell ourselves how great we are, we have started feeding the ego and forget the people that helped us along the way. Ego eclipses gratitude.

When we are really angry and keep telling ourselves as to how we have been wronged, we prevent ourselves from engaging and giving fully of ourselves.

But when we change our inner conversation, we can change our life. When we tell ourselves that there is a reason behind what is happening, and we look for the learning in it for us, we start growing.

When we are faced with seemingly impossible situations and we tell ourselves that if the challenge or opportunity has come to us, it means we are capable of handling it, we draw on inner abilities we never knew existed.

When we run into relationship issues, and we tell ourselves that first, we need to be honest and change, we transform into a better person.

When things are taking time and we find ourselves going through a tough period, and we remind ourselves that we need to stay the course because sooner or later things have to change, we build resilience and faith.

When we accept ourselves in spite of our faults and tell ourselves that it is okay not to be perfect, we develop responsibility and love.

Everything in life is created twice, first in our minds, then in reality. We have the power of changing our moods and mindset, pulling ourselves out of negativity and fear, and expressing the immense potentiality that we truly have. Much depends on the conversations we have with ourselves.

(Picture-Vancouver sky, Canada)