We often run into relationship problems. Perfectly good and healthy relationships can sometimes get strained, even after many years. It makes us wonder whether relationships by nature are fragile. They need not be if we are mindful of managing ourselves, the other person, and the principles on which we have built the relationship.
Relationships can get soured when we misread or misunderstand what the other person is trying to say. When we hold onto the words without taking the trouble to understand the feeling behind them, we strain relationships. We need to be mindful that words don’t always correctly convey feelings.
People change and so do their responsibilities. When we don’t learn to give space in a relationship, the other person will feel the strain and start moving away. Every relationship, no matter how close, needs space.
Sometimes, based on our observation or experience in a relationship, we start assuming things. We build a story in our mind which may be completely unfounded, but we make it our truth. When we don’t communicate openly, we will strain the relationship.
Fear makes relationships fragile. When we are worried about losing a relationship, we are constantly on the edge, acting from a space of insecurity. And when we are insecure, we will unnecessarily read more into things when there may be nothing at all.
There will always be disagreements and differences in any relationships. Having the courage to speak our point of view, and also having the humility to stand corrected, strengthens relationships. But when we operate from our ego, pride and hurt, the relationship becomes fragile.
Not everything in every relationship will be perfect all the time. Not all our expectations will be met. Nor will we always have proximity to some relationships as we may have had in the past. It doesn’t matter, that is life. Relationships, like wood, get seasoned over time with love and trust. Relationships may weather a few storms, but they need not be fragile.
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A true honest relationship has no fear as you truly said …. Give space , be patient and not come too fast to a conclusion