There are things we need to make amends for. We may have said something we should not have, or maybe in a way that was offensive; done something that was hurtful, or forgotten to do something expected of us; disregarded someone’s feelings, or acted in haste without seeking to first understand. We are all prone to making mistakes.

Inadvertently we find some relationships strained or even broken, and deep down we know we want to fix them. When we overcome our ego and find the courage to take the first step to mend broken relationships, somewhere an incomplete part of us gets fixed as well.

The only thing that stands between us and giving an apology, is our ego. Accepting our mistake does not make us vulnerable. It acknowledges the fact that we have not only been honest and accepted ourselves, but more importantly, the relationship is larger than our limited ego.

Taking the first step is not a sign of weakness. It displays our strength of inner security and confidence that for any distance to be bridged, a first step is always needed. And if we are struggling with taking that first step, then we are actually struggling with overcoming our ego and pain.

Time is a great healer. Sometimes we just need to have the patience for emotions to settle and the time to be opportune for things to normalise. It does not mean that we keep waiting for something to happen, it just means we are aware that some relationships may need time before they can heal. When we truly seek resolution, our awareness will guide us when the time is right.

It is possible that even after best efforts, we are unable to bring about reconciliation. We need to be mindful we don’t turn our back on the relationship, because we never know when the other person will come back to take the first step.

Making amends is bridging a gap with someone. But we can effectively do that when we first make amends and fix the gaps within.