We find ourselves complaining about several things that are not right. It could be things in society or in our personal and professional life. Our concerns may well be genuine and change may be desirable. Sometimes we feel things may not be in our control to change, causing us much frustration.
We may not realise it, but getting into a mind-set of constantly complaining about how things are not right, may not change the situation, but it certainly compromises our composure and competence.
When we complain, we are feeding the problem rather than the solution. The agitation caused within diminishes our ability to think clearly and find creative answers.
Complaining is a subtle admission of not just our frustration and anger, but our helplessness. We weaken our confidence rather than strengthening our empowerment.
When we complain, we replace gratitude with anger. There will always be things not in place or the way we would like them to be. At the same time, there is much in place to be grateful for.
Constant complaining builds a paradigm within. A sub-conscious filter gets established and before we know it, we start looking at the shortcomings in people and situations rather than taking a balanced view and appreciating the good that may well exist.
When we are not honest with ourselves, we blame others for our lapse. Complaining can become a dangerous tool where we start seeing ourselves as the victim, rather than taking responsibility.
Unknowingly we may be distancing others from us. It is not very pleasant being around people who are always complaining.
We will always observe and experience things that need to change. If we are aware of the agitation rising within and quickly convert that energy to fuel the question – ‘so what needs to be done?’, we will be surprised to discover that the cause for complaining can be a hidden opportunity.
When we carry the best interest of everyone at heart, we will always be conscious of what needs change. We don’t need to stop caring, we need to stop complaining.
(Pic-A beautiful park in Pune built on public wasteland)
Thank you Vivek. This was just what I needed to read today to help me avoid falling off the cliff of blame and complaint. A timely and wonderful reminder to seek solutions rather than point fingers.
Thanks Vivek .. This article has summed up some of my reflections on this .. As you rightly said the power of framing an action printed question to one selves or others of what needs to be done to address this is a positive and empowering way to address the situation .. as most often i have seen we complaint of the same long standing issues