Our problems consume our mind space. They weigh heavy on us and we want to get rid of them at the earliest. In many cases, we are able to find a solution and move ahead. Interestingly some problems have a peculiar nature. In spite of trying our best at all levels, the solution eludes us. The harder we try, the more agitated we get. This leaves us confused. Neither can we ignore the issue, nor are we making progress.
The answer lies in learning how to park the problem for a while. Parking a problem is not being uncaring, feeling defeated, or acting on impulse. It is done with our conscious awareness that we are allowing three factors to play themselves out. Circumstances, perspective and guidance.
Circumstances are constantly changing. The same effort can yield different results when circumstances become more favourable. Having the patience to wait for an opportune moment can help find a solution.
Taking step back allows both sides to relook at their positions and gain perspective. Sometimes we are unable to see clearly things that are closest to us. We allow ourselves the time and space to discuss our issue and gain other perspectives as well. A different way of looking at things can help find a solution.
We don’t realise it, but in most cases we use our conscious mind to find answers. In the midst of a problem, sitting in quiet time and seeking guidance seems counter-intuitive. It feels like passive submission. Nothing can be farther from the truth. Tapping into the power and potency of our sub-conscious is one of the most powerful tools we have. In our times of silence, we suddenly discover options hidden from us due to our agitated mind. Quiet time can help find a solution.
To reach our destination we need to keep driving. But if we find we are lost and not sure about the road ahead, the answer does not lie in driving faster. The right thing to do is to park on the side and seek direction. The right way forward will reveal itself.
Vivek you have touched upon a very important topic. Often we are consumed in our thoughts and worries without making much progress, instead worrying gets us into a negative spiral. The analogy of parking the car and looking for the right direction is pretty apt, and working with the 3 factors circumstances, perspectives and guidance is very good advice.
Thanks for sharing your wisdom.