We often give of our time and possessions to help make a difference to someone. Those receiving from us may express their gratitude. At the same time, the opportunity to give is a privilege. When we give, we grow.

Our growth does not lie in just giving, but the attitude with which we give. If we are not aware of the motive behind our actions, the very action which seems healthy can have an unhealthy effect on us.

Giving with an expectation of receiving, is no giving at all. It is a transaction. It feeds our anger when we don’t receive in the measure we expect.

When we give, wanting the world to know, we must be careful that we are not feeding our ego. Sharing our actions to inspire and motivate others is of course desirable. We need to be very aware that our motivation is to influence others, not inflate ourselves.

Giving needs sensitivity. It is easy to give but not always easy to receive. The burden of obligation can weigh on others. Giving is true giving when we neither feel big when giving nor make the other feel small when receiving. Giving with grace is real giving.

And when we deeply reflect we will realise that we are only trustees of resources. We were born fortunate to get the opportunities and experiences which enable us to be used as a medium. True giving is when we realise that it is not from us, but through us.

No giving is big or small. When we feel something is not worth our while, we have put ourselves ahead of the opportunity. There are times we may feel constrained, and may have to make a choice. When we decide from love and not our self-importance, our capacity to give magically expands.

We often receive gifts from others who care for us. When we look back, we reflect on the favourite gifts we have received. We must enjoy them. And at the same time, we must realise that life has given us the greatest gift we have – our willingness and ability to Give.

(Picture – University of St.Andrews)