Sometimes we get into critical mode. We find fault with things around us and criticise decisions taken by others, even our near ones. And we may well find ourselves at the receiving end of constant opposition and critical feedback in a relationship, at work, or even at home.

Our critical nature comes from a sense of ego. When we believe we know better than others, we tend to view a different approach as a wrong approach. Our ego makes us believe that we are superior and our way of doing things is ‘the’ right way.

Lack of appreciation and sensitivity makes us critical. We fail to take a step back to consider a new viewpoint. Sometimes others may not be as quick or as effective as us. But that shouldn’t give us the license to be quick to pressurise them and put them down. We need to be sensitive to their needs and help develop them.

Bitter memories harden us and make us critical. When we are not at peace with ourselves, rarely will we appreciate others. Our inner turmoil often manifests as being judgemental and critical at most things around us.

Anger clouds our thinking and makes us critical. And even when someone we differ with does something good, we fail to see it objectively, our critical filter having coloured our judgement.

It doesn’t mean we should not give honest feedback when we disagree, or critically evaluate situations. Our ability to evaluate, point out gaps, give suggestions and help someone, comes from deep care to bring out the best in the situation and person, without being hurtful. Truth told with love is like being shaped by a potter. Even as one hand firmly shapes with hard strokes, the other hand cares that nothing breaks.

Relationships cannot bear the burden of constant criticism. Learning to put our point across without breaking a heart is critical.

And when the world criticises us, let us listen with humility and reflect on what we need to change. Keeping an open mind and turning criticism to our advantage is critical.

(Picture-Cliffs Of Moher, Ireland)