Our Insecurity comes from our deep seated need to always be In-Security. It comes from a false sense of wanting that all fronts in life should be in place. Common sense and experience tells us that is never the case. And chasing that absolutely perfect life can breed insecurity.
Our vulnerabilities make us insecure. We often feel we will not be able to face a challenging situation. Ego makes us insecure, always wanting to look good and be in favour with people around us. Change creates insecurity, not knowing what to expect and being thrown out of our comfort zone. Losing makes us insecure, the mind imagining a never-ending downward spiral. Dependency makes us insecure, always living in fear of losing that one person we feel we cannot manage without. Attachments breed insecurity by the sheer thought of losing them.
The antidote lies in a root solution – Knowledge. A person walking in the dark sees a snake and is fearful and insecure carrying on. With a bit of light he realises it was a rope which looked like a snake in the dark. When we see things for what they truly are and not the way they appear, we drop our insecurities.
Our vulnerability is nothing but an undiscovered strength waiting to be developed. Living by the opinion of others is meaningless to a knowledgeable person. Change is opportunity in disguise. Loss is a learning experience for bigger wins. Dependency is a teacher for us to learn what support means and become a source of support for others. Our attachments are visible bondages, inspiring us to break free and soar higher.
When we realise that everything that makes us insecure can actually make us stronger, it builds our confidence. Not only can we overcome, but use our insecurities to our advantage. We search within, with faith, seeking the wisdom and guidance of our inner-voice.
And in that space we find the security of the Higher. And then we move from insecurity to being In-Security.
Loved this piece .. In Security
Superbly written!
Something I needed to hear today!!
Abha I am glad this has resonated and been helpful 🙂
Awesome Vivek… So so true! The only secure space is within us!
So very true. Need to be read again and again to become more aware. Thank you
Glad you enjoy the reflection Deval
Your blog of July 3, on ‘Desires’
I’m reading you for the first time…and happy to do that !!
Dear Vivek, Because in this particular blog I don’t see many illustrations of kinds of desires you are suggesting (that people may have) and imagine these as their road to the happiness they might be seeking)…. I have thus taken the impression that what you’re suggesting is that fulfilment of our endless desires (material I suppose) will not give us lasting joy and that these desires (or the energy spent longing for them) should be turned instead towards the good of the world (the act of giving).
Not all desires are necessarily bad!!
(I’m not sure if you were also be suggesting (would be quite appropriate too!) to distinguish our wants or our needs from our desires).
Dear Shatrughun, Thanks for your views and suggestion. The central idea is that if something is transient in nature, it cannot give us lasting happiness. Knowing this, we start re-caliberating our choices.
Your point on needs v/s wants is an excellent suggestion and shall share my reflection on that in the near future.
Happy to have you on the blog group !
Yes… Finding grace.