We often get Judgemental. Of people and situations. We start evaluating things as we believe they should be. Often our judgemental nature is a critical nature.

It is important to first understand the other and circumstances that may have led to something. How often our anger has turned to empathy when we become aware of the full picture.

We need to be equally aware of our own biases, prejudices and conditioning. We often see things from an internal coloured lens and get judgemental. How often things have looked different when we have shed our conditioning and taken an honest unbiased look at things.

We are quick to judge someone with a different style and background. We lose out on building precious relationships because in our minds we have rejected a particular type or category of people. How often we’ve discovered a diamond in the stones we’ve been judgemental about. 

Preferences create differences. We judge people by the choices they make, confusing preferences with values. A different way of doing things is not necessarily wrong, it’s just different.

We are entitled to our opinions and points of view. But before we judge someone let us do two things – take the trouble to understand what’s behind the behaviour and secondly, be honest in our outlook. To take the moral high ground when someone makes a mistake is hypocrisy for those of us who have also erred in our life.

And when we are fully aware and truly honest with ourselves, we will realise there’s only one person in this world we can be Judgemental about. Ourselves.